Ok, this is just a trivial, shallow post about aging and hair colour. First world problems of middle age women dying and plucking all those glimmers of silver that start popping up and then start inviting all their friends and relatives to move in too.
Or is it really trivial and shallow……? This can be a really big deal for some women. Myself included. It is one aspect of aging we can ‘pretend’ to have control over, every 4-6 weeks As men age and go grey the look distinguished, mature, successful, wealthy! When I think of myself with grey hair I think of this…
My own little course, grey, bastards first showed up about 10 years ago. I was 38 and getting my hair done for my daughters graduation and the hair dresser said ”oh you have a grey hair here”.
“What”??? I damn near jumped out of the chair.
“Oh maybe not, it must just be the weird lighting in here” she wisely said.
Her retraction made me feel better….but deep down I knew the truth and shortly after I started colouring my hair regularly. My new friend and hairdresser Shelly was usually given free reign and she ‘took care of them’ on a monthly basis. The joke was that she would be coming to the nursing home and taking care of business…
We have since moved, and I began to just colour my hair on my own. But those glimmery bastards are having a big ol party up on my head. I am needing more and more dye, more and more often. I am blond and according to my husband, they are not even noticeable. But this guy will wear blue with green, plaid with plaid and socks and sandals if left to his own…and I also suspect his eyesight is failing, and he likes to say what I want to hear. So I do not trust him. I can see them, so I know they are there.
I asked on a facebook group that I am on made up of peri and menopausal women. Results are about 50/50. With some women totally embracing the grey and feel very liberated by it. Some of these women shared their pictures, and yup they are embracing and rocking the grey….while running marathons, or battling illness. The others are not going down without a fight and they look fabulous too.
A search on Pintrest for grey hair seems to bring up a whole lot of young girls …and yes anyone under 35 now is a young girl to me… sporting the ‘grey hair trend’. Hmmm….. that truly doesn’t help.
If I do decide to give up the fight and surrender the hair dye, I am thinking there has to be a way to grow it out gracefully. Maybe instead of doing all over dye, I will just add more ashy blonde streaks and highlights, so the glitter blends with the ash and my own ‘natural’ hair colour as well at least until I get used to the idea of seeing those greys and learning to love them…and according to some women I talk to, yes they love their grey! Keeping a great hairstyle and having healthy hair will go along way as well.
I am envisioning something like this from www.hairstylesidea.us which is a far cry from anyone that looks old and fragile. This woman looks vibrant, healthy and totally sexy!
What about you? I would love to hear if you are embracing the grey or are you still putting up a fight? I don’t think it matters what route you choose… I am not trying to convince anyone of what they should do, you know yourself best. I think we all should do what makes us happy and feel fabulous.